Brutal Honesty Revealed…
I know you’ve all seen this before but it fits so perfectly with this blog… :)
I wonder how many people every day say the words, “Just tell me the truth..?” And I wonder how many of them actually mean it? Radical honesty might be a fad or a trend in some sects of the country, but for the majority of people- though they think they want the truth- they actually want to hear what would make them feel better.
If you thought for one moment about telling the absolute truth, without holding back, to everyone you came in contact with it would seem an impossible and scary task. Telling your boss what you really think, telling your significant other those little secrets you hold back because you would rather not hurt their feelings, or telling that pretty girl that walks by you what you really think of their sexy strut, or that hot mailman how great his junk looks in his tight shorts… lol, you catch my drift. And you couldn’t do it.
I can say I live my life 85% honestly. I don’t tell everyone what I really think. Not only would it be inappropriate and rude, but it wouldn’t help too much. But, I know I am more honest than most people. Sometimes people come to me for that. Sometimes they avoid me because of that. I usually tell people the good things I think about them. Most people would deserve that. They know if I like them, if I think they are attractive to me, if they make me feel at ease or if I believe them to be easy to talk to.
Dennis lives his life a little more honestly than I do. Maybe 90%. He doesn’t have as much of a problem being a little rude or inappropriate. I like it, though. I much prefer his honesty to the illusions most people would rather portray to save someone’s feelings. But let me warn you- it does take getting used to in a close relationship. At first, when something is said that you don’t want to hear, your first response is to become “hurt”, and… why? We are conditioned to expect certain things by society. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.” This is not always a statement to live by. There are times people need to hear the truth even if it is not nice and not what they want to hear.
I think I have broken through the “Matrix.” I say this because I think there is this web of illusion we put over ourselves, and our actions. When you are outside the bubble it is much easier to see the remainder of the flaws in society’s system of honesty. It can be brutal at first, but after you lower the conditioned expectations and start expecting honesty your social conditioning is numbed down to reality and honesty is so much better. It’s like having a bout of “mental clarity.” Cleaning a dirty window. You see things through a different light. Explaining honesty to others usually proves useless. Unless you’ve broken through the matrix of the system then you are under the social conditioning spell that thinks honesty is something completely different than it really is. How can you convince someone of something when they are on a different wavelength than you are?
This is probably just a lot of ridiculous rambling. Maybe I am just brainwashed… lol. Think what you want- at least I’m being honest…
